Archive for June, 2009

The Gift

Now that I have written a post describing what has been going on in my life, I wanted to share a good thing. If any of you have family that you are separated from by miles or differences you will understand what I am writing about.

Weddings and Funerals, weddings and funerals that is the extent of the contact with my extended family for years ( way too many to mention). Then it got to be no one was marrying, or passing that I could get away for, and before you know it 15/20 years went by in, what seemed like , the blink of an eye.  Cousins that I last saw in diapers, or had just heard of their births were all at my Mom’s bedside, or in the waiting room. Cousins, Aunts, Uncles and friends from all over Pa. were at my Mommas Memorial.  You see THAT was my Mom’s parting gift, to me and to all of us. We have vowed that it will not be another 15/20 years before we speak again. We have reconnected, and in today’s world with Facebook and multiple social websites it will be easier than ever to keep our promises.

My vow to my cousins is not so much a vow to them as it is a promise to my Mom. A promise that I saw, and recognized, her last legacy, my family. My Mom was a teacher not by word , but by example, of the power of Love and what it can do. I vowed both aloud to my family, and silently to my mom that I will not throw away this gift, this opportunity to reconnect with those I have had a disconnect with. I hope that they take it as seriously as I do. But as for me, I know my vow will remain unbroken, in honor of the one who taught me to love, I will NOT allow myself to become estranged from my family again.


Unexpected Journey

Those of you who are on Facebook (and have me friended) may have seen some strange updates this past week and wondered what was going on.

 I had to take an emergency trip back to the East coast( Souderton & Coopersburg, Pa). Apparently my parents had decided to go to Pa, as a surprise trip to see family. While visiting my Aunt, my mother was rushed to the Hospital. On June 9th  she passed away. My mother was an awesome woman full of Love, Joy and Laughter,despite all of her pains and struggles. As a matter of fact, after talking to my Aunt, They could hardly get her to stop talking about all the good ole’ days , the whole day leading up to her hospital stay. It was my Mom’s wish to be creamated and so we had 2 Memorials one in Pa. with her family and all those who were in Pa at the time. They have yet to schedule the one in Alabama. I will miss you Mom, more than anyone will ever know, but I know that now you are at peace, the pain has stopped, and you are with all your loved ones who went before you. I am glad I got the chance to see you one more time .